Cell Phones Cancer Coffee
Please explain my parents to me…?
I am a 33 year old married woman with 4 children. I have a wonderful life and a very good relationship. My parents though are becoming quite a problem and I dont know what to do.
Whatever I get, be it a cell phone, vehicle, kitchen mixer, coffee pot, etc… they have to go out and either get the same exact thing or get something better even if it is something that they dont need. Point in example. I just bought a new Juicer. I use it everyday. My mom has never juiced in her life. She went out and bought the same one. It sits in a box. The constantly complain to me that they have no money and cannot afford to feed themselves. Which I know is far from true. Recently I moved my father in law in with us who has advanced cancer. Now, on an almost daily basis I get calls of how sick they are, how they need help around their home, how I have no time for them. I am going insane over this. It is getting old. Any advice??
Sounds like your parents are wanting your attention, any way they can. As with children, bad attention is better than no attention at all. Do you argue with them? Complain about them getting all this equipment? If so, then they are getting feedback from you. Try to call them or get together without focusing on material things and just spend quality time, if that’s possible. As far as caring for your ailing in law, 1. he’s very lucky that he has you as a daughter in law willing to take him in and 2. your parents are jealous over the care and attention you offer your father in law but will have to understand.
Talk to your parents, tell them you love them, even though now you have your hands full with caring for your husband’s father. Tell them you will try and make as much time for them as you can, and maybe ask them to help in some way so they feel useful. Maybe in this manner they won’t feel left out and wont have this need to compete with you.
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